Thursday, October 7, 2010

Practice Makes Perfect

This Sunday, we heard a sermon about forgiveness. It really hit home for me. I've been sort of struggling with the idea of forgiveness lately. Sort of a philosophical question of whether or not you can forgive a person, truly forgive them while also making it less possible for them to hurt you. Can a woman forgive her husband and still leave him? Can a mother forgive her child and still make them accept the consequences for their action? Can we forgive someone who hurts us and protect ourselves from their hurt? Or is that not really forgiveness?

It's a tricky question, and one I've been pondering and also totally not the point. During the sermon, the pastor said that forgiveness is easy, as long as you practice it. It will be hard in the beginning, but as you get more and more in the habit, it will get easier and easier. And a light bulb went off in my head.

How many times in my life have I heard that practice makes perfect? How many things (crafts, cooking, child rearing issues) have I applied that theory to? And it never occurred to me that it applies to everything, not just what you do but who you are.

I want to be a forgiving person, therefore, I should forgive. Over and over again, until it's easy.

Or, more to the point, I want to be a happy person. A joyful person. I want to see the amazing in the mundane. I look at those people, those people who always have something nice to say, something to smile about, some pleasant perspective on the world and I am envious.

I don't want to be a smiling automaton who never sees the dark side, and there is a certain appeal to my snarky cynism, but I do want a little more joy in my life, a little more light. And I will only get it one way - practice.

Perhaps after I've mastered joy, I'll just work my way through the rest of the fruits of the spirit.

In the meantime, I'm focusing on joy. I want something to smile about. And it's really not all that hard. To that end, I've joined Grace in the Small Things, started by the very funny and successfully snarky, Schmutzie.

And Practice: 5 Things (Not Even on a Friday) in which I can, today, find grace and joy.
  1. They Might Be Giants - Otherwise known as the only CD that both of my children AND I enjoy in the car. And okay, they are burning me out a little on "Why the Sun Shines," but then they humor me enough to listen to "Birdhouse in my Soul" a couple of times and we're all good.
  2. Supernatural - Tomorrow I am going to be home on a Friday night (gasp!) and I am going to watch my most favoritest show and swoon every time Jensen walks onscreen.
  3. Haunted Houses - I haven't been to one since before Brynna was born, but I'm going this weekend. And hopefully, I'm not going to be pulled out for hyperventilating (which I only do when it's claustrophobic). 
  4. Halloweentown - Brynna and I have been watching these movies all week on Disney Channel and I have no idea why I love them so, but I do. I really, really do. Bless Marnie.
  5. Cake - My meeting of church ladies tonight is at the baker's house, so I'm really looking forward to some sort of culinary delight. I'd be perfectly happy if she only served dessert. Perfectly happy.
Let me know what you find grace and joy in and maybe I'll be able to find it there too. Oh, and feel free to weigh in on the forgiveness issue.

1 comment:

Mrs. Allroro said...

the forgiveness issue: I have a book from our church library that I scanned just a little, and I saw a snippet of a paragraph about forgiveness. It was about forgiving people who had really, really hurt you--people who were still going to be in your life. It said you didn't have to send them a Christmas card, but that you did have to refrain from slandering them when the temptation arose and you did have to say hello and be polite when you see them. I liked that.

I love your realization and I want to think about some things that bring me joy. But I think I'll do it tomorrow and try to get home early today. :-)