tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post4402936183638298090..comments2023-10-02T03:52:13.931-04:00Comments on Saving My Sanity for Posterity: The Breast Debate EverJessihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00777169606653222027noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-33880341580544911372010-08-03T09:49:13.159-04:002010-08-03T09:49:13.159-04:00Anon - Thanks for the support. I hope the guilt tr...Anon - Thanks for the support. I hope the guilt trip eases up and your life becomes more peaceful soon!Jessihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777169606653222027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-16302319072285133032010-08-02T22:07:38.579-04:002010-08-02T22:07:38.579-04:00I know this is an older post. But I loved what you...I know this is an older post. But I loved what you said and you have brought a little bit of comfort to me. My baby is 2 months and she is formula fed. Before being pregnant I never want to nurse. Then I got pregnant and planned on nursing as long as it all went well. Everything went great up until about a week and then it all went downhill with a colicky and hive filled baby due to milk/soy allergies. I could either cut everything out of my diet or formula feed. So i formula fed.<br /><br />Why oh why was it so hard for me to stop even though I said all along that I'd only do it as long as it all went ok? Well, because everyone and their dog questioned why i didn't cut things out of my diet. "Oh, your formula feeding??" It has made this so hard. And over and over again I hear "breast is best." Breast is best. It's like this giant guilt trip I can't avoid. <br /><br />I have a medical reason why I stopped, but so what? What if I didn't? Why do I have to explain that to people when they ask me why I don't nurse? I really don't believe any one way is best, I don't think we can use breast is best as a standard because of the implications it has, which you described. I have always fully supported formula feeding for whatever reason, even if its done because a woman thinks breastfeeding is gross. Thanks for your post. I loved every word of it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-26865665827009451792009-10-09T18:41:18.061-04:002009-10-09T18:41:18.061-04:00You may be right - it may be an impossible situati...You may be right - it may be an impossible situation. But you are also right to say that we can persist in avoiding judging each other - living and letting live - and embracing the peace that might come with that.Her Bad Motherhttp://www.herbadmother.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-46872730705976017842009-10-09T01:36:42.068-04:002009-10-09T01:36:42.068-04:00I have never thought less of people who didn't...I have never thought less of people who didn't breast feed. Personally, I don't think I would. I have never heard of a child being harmed by being fed by formula. I agree with you, who cares how they are being fed as long as they are eating and not starving.Tinahttp://www.myspace.com/jumpette2noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-36142313123861048322009-10-08T15:44:46.977-04:002009-10-08T15:44:46.977-04:00Wow...this surely does not make my decision to bec...Wow...this surely does not make my decision to become a mom any easier...it hasn't happened yet but posts like this scare me...<br /><br />http://www.booshy.wordpress.comjessicaboldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09078112288742047510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-30719636531763776532009-10-08T14:49:47.809-04:002009-10-08T14:49:47.809-04:00What a great post.
I had no idea this was such a...What a great post. <br /><br />I had no idea this was such an issue with mothers. <br /><br />I breastfed my son until I ran out of milk. It was what I wanted to do and I was told that it helps the baby's immune system. After my "supply" ran out I switched to formula. No one I knew had an issue with it and I never felt like a bad mom for formula feeding. <br /><br />I know many mothers who chose formula over breast milk and their kid's development was not affected by the choice. The kids have grown up happy, healthy and smart. There is no way I would have criticized them for that choice. What a horrible thing to do to a mother. Especially a new mother who is just trying to figure out how to cope with motherhood.<br /><br />I wonder what the Lactivists would think if someone came along and criticized them for another choice they made for their child. Would they still be so quick to judge?OhSweetSarahttp://ohsweetsara.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-59075826708907005532009-10-08T10:28:27.442-04:002009-10-08T10:28:27.442-04:00Yeah, the joy of having girls, I never had to have...Yeah, the joy of having girls, I never had to have the circumcision debate. Just as emotional.Jessihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777169606653222027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-5034976446856495662009-10-08T10:00:38.547-04:002009-10-08T10:00:38.547-04:00I couldn't breastfeed. I tried, my boobs and ...I couldn't breastfeed. I tried, my boobs and Nate just didn't fit (they are small, he is not). It was the only thing I was sure of. My mom and MIL gave me shit. Said I wasn't trying hard enough. <br /><br />And as for our other battle, the choice not to circumsize. The in-laws still wont let it go. How we are denying him something. How we are going to cause infections and locker room ridicule. It's made Philip doubt our decision. It sucks.<br /><br />Oh, and when I was pregnant with Nate (2007), some lactivist staged a sit-in at Applebee's after a breastfeeding mother was asked to cover herself.Carolinehttp://bourbonmama.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-10114899642996494912009-10-08T09:02:09.488-04:002009-10-08T09:02:09.488-04:00I am a big fan of doing what works. Yay, you. As l...I am a big fan of doing what works. Yay, you. As long as kids are healthy and happy, I really don't care how they get that way. :-)Jessihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777169606653222027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-7964724914288317682009-10-08T09:00:00.459-04:002009-10-08T09:00:00.459-04:00I think my issue is sleep. My kids are/were terrib...I think my issue is sleep. My kids are/were terrible sleepers as babies. Didn't nap well or reliably, didn't sleep through the night (Anya still doesn't on both counts). We have funny eating habits, too, but fortunately those seem to be resolving themselves on their own, thank goodness. I've been bombarded with advice, none of which has worked, all of which makes me feel like an incompetent idiot. Now I just nod and smile and generally ignore the advice I get. We do what works!Suzehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05090954944438450837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-12610602654155117602009-10-08T08:55:53.827-04:002009-10-08T08:55:53.827-04:00Suze - That is ridiculous about McD's. I hadn&...Suze - That is ridiculous about McD's. I hadn't heard about that. And there are definately issues that are bigger issues than others. I also think we are all a little senstive to one issue in particular. A read one blogger who is really sensitive about young mothers and another who is super-sensitve about tobacco use around kids. I think I am really most sensitve about this whole "can't we just get along thing."Jessihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00777169606653222027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-35538453760262354602009-10-07T17:20:47.378-04:002009-10-07T17:20:47.378-04:00Though I doubt I've ever shared an opinion abo...Though I doubt I've ever shared an opinion about breastfeeding, this post made me think about how I share all of my opinions--it made me want to be more sensitive. Thanks.annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13621915642420308973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-437730534870026306.post-26888686673867193272009-10-07T16:51:41.315-04:002009-10-07T16:51:41.315-04:00We were bottle-fed, and my mother felt so bullied ...We were bottle-fed, and my mother felt so bullied because she didn't breastfeed. Good parents feed their babies, just like you said. I don't for one single minute think I'm a better mother than you or than my own mother, for that matter, because I'm a BF mom. The so-called lactivists get on my nerves, too.<br /><br />You know, I don't really understand why certain parenting issues are so incredibly sensitive. Like breast and bottle-feeding. You do what's right for you and your kid, so why do other people care SO MUCH which choice you've made as long as it's informed?<br /><br />Aside: When I was visiting KY a couple years ago, there was an incident at a McDonald's in Berea where a woman was asked to leave because she was breastfeeding. None of the other customers even noticed but the manager made a big scene and threatened to call the police. Ridiculous, huh? Would they rather she feed the baby Mcnuggets?Suzehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05090954944438450837noreply@blogger.com